It would be fair to say since being a parent for the last 15 years and being a driver I have had our fair share of conundrums while in the car.
Like the bombshell of an upcoming detention or the need for cash within minutes of exiting the car for school or like Joshua and his funny made up games that make no actual sense whatsoever and are just never-ending … for example:
Joshua: Mummy pick a vegetable
Mummy: a carrot
Joshua: I pick potato, so now pick a fruit
Mummy: an apple
Joshua: I pick an orange …. You get the gist?!
Or his randomness this weekend in the car:
Joshua: Mummy Do you know why my shoes are not friends …
Mummy: No, Do you?
Joshua: Yes, one strap goes one way and the other strap goes the other, why do they do that?
Mummy: So they are easier to get on your feet
Joshua: No it’s not is because they aren’t friends …
… I guess to a child this logic makes sense, however it has me baffled and bemused!
So I wasn’t surprised by Kiddicares recent survey of 2,400 parents that showed that the majority feel real pressure to answer their children’s constant questions correctly. Most parents find it particularly stressful to respond when they’re driving, feeling frustrated and guilty when they struggle to come up with a response.
Dr Elizabeth Kilbey, child psychologist from The Secret Life Of 4, 5 and 6 Year-Olds, strongly sympathises: “When you’re driving, from the kid’s point of view you’re a captive audience. You’ve got your back to them, there’s no eye contact and you’re both strapped in. They can let their imagination run wild and use free association. You’re more of a sounding board – they’re not talking to you, they’re talking at you!” (see HERE for the full interview with Dr Kilbey)
This made me laugh as I have to agree with Dr Kilbey … very often Joshua is talking at me and really he doesn’t want any kind of answer at all, he wants to tell me what my answer should be … often leaving us both frustrated.
In light of Kiddicare’s research and the information from Dr Kilbey they have produced a wonderful flow chart to support you on how to tackle those conundrums and if find if all else fails my personal response works brilliantly … “ask Daddy later”
Since these car seat conundrums seem to be super common place for every parent the wonderfully talented Katie from Hurrah For Gin has teamed up with Kiddicare and illustrated 10 funny instances and here are my 2 favourites, to see all of her beautiful illustrations you can see them over HERE)
I feel so much better that someone has acknowledged this tricky aspect of parenting, after all unless you have had that pesky child in your rear view mirror asking you what fruit or vegetable you want to pick for a 2 hour car journey you just don’t realise that this aspect of trickiness needs to be added to the perils of parenthood along with poonamis, projectile vomit and sleepless nights.
Tell me what randomness you and your child/ren talk about on your car journeys or even what funny stuff they say, I would love to hear them! … why not text them to me using the hashtag #carseatconundrums
*This is a collaborative post*