The next blogger in my guest post series is the lovely Kerry ;
Kerry is Working Mum who has 4 Beautiful children, 3 boys including twins and a little girl and blogs at Kerry Shaw Mummy of Four.
On her blog Kerry covers a wide range of subjects about life with her little ones and the ups and down of her motherhood journey that makes me nod along too! She has wonderful voice and I am sure you will agree once you have read her post today.
You can also find Kerry here:
Motherhood Fashion – The Six Stages
Stage one – Maternity Wear
So, you have just discovered you are expecting a baby; before that second line has barely enough time to turn blue, your daydreams of the perfect pregnancy clothing collection are as vivid as the dreams of your anticipated arrival.
You make a promise to yourself – there is no way you’re going to let yourself go and resort to ‘leggings’, you’re going to be as stylish as ever during pregnancy. There will be no ‘frumpy’ maternity dresses or oversized rugby shirts in your wardrobe. Instead you will be sporting, sexy, skinny maternity jeans, cool, chic shirts, oversized bags and cute pumps to take you through the next nine months. Before anyone has time to say the words ‘gender reveal’ you have hot-footed it down to Topshop in search of the perfect pair of maternity Jeans.
It’s at this point that the dream of the ultimate, pregnancy wardrobe ends – well at least mine did.
I must have bought a pair of jeans a week throughout the first half of my first pregnancy, determined not to give up on finding ‘the ones’, but they were always either too tight on my legs or too tight on my hips or too tight on my bum, too big, too short, too uncomfortable or just too ugly, and I am 99% sure that it is impossible to find a pair of maternity jeans that actually stay up!
By the end of my second trimester I had resorted to wearing various leggings and by the third trimester I was down to only two pairs of leggings that fitted. Some days I was confined to the house in my pyjamas because I didn’t have a thing to wear, which leads me onto the next stage ………..
Stage Two – Fashion in the early days of parenthood
You probably spent hours lying on the sofa during the final weeks of your pregnancy, scrolling through the ASOS website, fantasising about all the pretty, ‘small’ things you could soon wear. Maybe you bought some stylish ‘leisure wear’ for those first few weeks of motherhood or a cool little wrap dress that would be your ‘coming home from hospital outfit’. I know I did, but what I wore on my journey home from the hospital after giving birth, was those bloody leggings.
After going through a twelve-hour labour (that alone should have burnt a few calories) and pushing out a decent sized baby, my circumference appeared not to have reduced by a single cm, so it was back to whatever fitted.
Once I was back at home with our new addition, I was under the impression that the advice of ‘plenty of spare clothes’ was with reference to the baby. It is in fact advice for the mother too! Thanks to the leakage of various bodily fluids – mine and the baby’s – I got changed more in those first few days than I did when deciding on an outfit for an under eighteens rave, and when I did get changed It was out of one pair of pyjamas and into another. Yes, fashion in the early days is ultimately nightwear.
Stage Three – Maternity Jeans
About a week after you have given birth you decide to put yourself through emotional and physical pain and attempt to squeeze your post-pregnancy belly and bum into your pre-pregnancy size 10 skinny jeans. You almost cut your fingers and make them bleed with your dedication and determination to get the bloody zip fastened. Failing miserably, the following hour is spent sitting on the bed crying and generally feeling sorry for yourself. You eventually pull yourself together and dig out the maternity jeans, anything is better than the damn leggings and who knew it? They fit and unlike when you were pregnant, they actually stay up.
For at least the first six months after my first baby was born, my collection of barely worn maternity jeans became my new best friend and I probably became a little bit too attached to them so to make myself feel better about wearing maternity clothes post pregnancy, I renamed them ‘Post – Maternity Jeans’.
Stage Four – You Look Amazing!
You’ve made it through the first nine months of motherhood and you are finally starting to feel human again. You’re sleeping more than thirty minutes at a time, you’re well on your way to pre-pregnancy weight and a at nine-months-old your baby is the perfect age to dump on your favourite relatives whilst you get to go shopping for clothes.
Spanx have become not just your friend but your saviour and you have never looked so good in the bodycon dresses that you get to wear on your recently organised, monthly date-nights. This is the stage you have been waiting for, after months of looking like an unsuccessful, psychotic lion tamer, you can finally get dressed up again. Your days are spent at mother and toddler groups enjoying the last of your maternity leave. You look effortlessly cool in trendy knitwear and ankle boots. You are a pro at motherhood, no more puking baby ruining your outfit, you have more muslin cloths to hand than baby apps on your iPhone.
This is my favourite stage of motherhood fashion, I fully embraced it……. but it doesn’t last long. Bring on the wellies!
Stage Five – The Wellies
Your baby is turning into a toddler. You buy him his first pair of wellies and admire how cute he looks wearing them. At first you find it entertaining that he wants to wear them everywhere he goes, before long he NEEDS to wear them everywhere he goes, because everywhere that toddlers go are dirty, very dirty places. Then comes the day you need to buy wellies too, your Converse won’t survive another washing machine cycle, soon you won’t remember what it was like to wear trainers never mind heels.
Your wellies are a staple part of your wardrobe; you don’t leave the house without putting them in the boot of the car ‘just in case’. Your wellies take you on the school run, they take you to Tesco and they even take you out to lunch. Instead of treating yourself to a new bag when you have spare cash, you will now be treating yourself to a new pair of wellie socks.
I know!!… This is my life.
Stage Six – The Designer Stage
Only Joking! Children take all your money, you won’t be able to afford a decent pair of shoes or bag or anything again and according to my friends with older children you will still be wearing wellies when your kids are teenagers, you need them every time you enter their bedrooms.
Don’t forget to pop over and visit Kerry’s blog, Kerry Shaw Mummy Of Four to see what else she is writing about!