There are many aspects about having a new baby in the house that are supposed to be natural and come easily, such as breastfeeding, sleeping when baby does and of course bonding.
All very natural but still not as easy or forthcoming as some may think.
This year I have the pleasure of working with and supporting Huggies Wipes and if you missed my last post you will know the reason I am so very excited to be working with them is the fact their wipes are made with natural fibres, contain no nasties such as alcohol, phenoxyethanol or parabens and their whole concept is about things being as natural as possible and this is how I feel all aspects of childhood should be!
Bring on the nature!
I have been very lucky as part of my Ambassador role with Huggies Wipes to be able to ask some questions to Gayle Berry, Huggies Wipes baby bonding expert about how I can help nurture my 5-year-old son, Joshua’s bond with his 6 month old baby brother, Jacob as naturally as possible.
Over the last few weeks Joshua has been giving off signals that he is feeling a little unsure of where he sits in the family hierarchy now that Jacob is becoming his own character, with little gestures of possessiveness and often trying to muscle in on any time Jacob has with us. All this is perfectly normal but we are aware that we need at this point to reassure him and help him understand that we need to split our time and also to help him develop an individual bond with Jacob.
What can we do to help older siblings bond with a new sibling?
“Make sure you include your older child in activities you are doing with the baby. Ask him to be a little helper. Take this opportunity to help develop his sense of empathy and nurturing by giving him a teddy or doll to look after whilst you are with your baby. Make sure they have the opportunity to spend time together talking and communicating together.
Cuddles with the new baby also show that you trust and respect your older child and help him learn about how to care for a newborn.
Read stories together about new family members so he understands the experience of a new baby happens all around the world and in the animal kingdom.
Be patient with your older child as he adjusts to his role as an older sibling. It will take time. Remember he is learning so be supportive, patient and loving.
The new baby will usually be delighted by the attention of any older sibling. Children have an innate ability to relate and learn from each other. Make sure there is plenty of opportunity for eyes contact and cuddles”
Should we involve Joshua (age 5) with the day-to-day looking after Jacob?
“Siblings are so amazing and mini teacher’s for younger children. Again spending time together is crucial to help nurture relationships and create bonds. Encouraging your older ones to read stories and play games together is a great idea. Cuddles and conversation is key so that the relationship can grow and develop.
Doing baby massage as a family can be a great way to bond. If you give your five-year old a teddy or doll to massage then you can do massage together. You can also bring in songs to sing together when you are massaging. Many of the baby massage techniques can also be used with your older child too so he feels part of the activity together”.
What I loved about Gayle’s advice is that there need not be any cost or organising to these tips, all are things we can ensure we do regularly.
We have done most of these before but I have never really involved Joshua in baby massage so will certainly be having a go at that and also will be doing things more regularly instead of using my more hit and miss approach.
Time is precious and I for one need to slow things down and take more time to make memories and bond with both boys on a more natural level.
To find more tips and advice from the HUGGIES® Wipes experts visit www.huggieswipes.co.uk
Disclaimer: This post was written as part of my Ambassador role, all thoughts and options were independently formed by members of The Oliver’s Madhouse, unless otherwise stated.