When I look around Joshua’s playground alone I get to see this firsthand, whereas when I was around the same age it was mainly just Mum’s in the playground taking their children to school. Now you see not only Mum’s but Dad’s, Grandparents and even partners.
Children don’t question the relationship status’ of their peers families, they don’t even notice a difference, it is only when they get older that they may realise their Mum may have a different surname to themselves, or that their brothers/sisters could have a different surname. It is a factor of modern-day life, sometimes relationships end, parents separate and new ones can relationships can develop. They may not even realise that the man they have grown up calling Dad may not actually be their biological father. To them it is the norm and obviously it is but everyone’s ‘norm’ is a little different, as it should be because wouldn’t it be a boring world otherwise?
As children get older they become more aware of these differences, and some families may want to change the child’s surname to match the new family set, the Mum may have remarried and perhaps want their child to have the same surname as her now, especially if their biological father is no longer involved in the child’s life. Or perhaps the Dad have started a new life elsewhere and Mum is now single but doesn’t want her child to retain the father’s surname. It is actually very common nowadays for this to happen and it is in fact a lot easier than you would expect to change a name using a Child Deed Poll service, I have personally changed my daughter’s name twice although back then it was a much harder and a far more drawn out process.
It is now an online service which can take as little as 5 minutes to fill in the online form and prices start from £9.99. Once the name is changed it will be accepted by every government organisation including, Banks, Schools, DVLA and the Passport Office. Of course if you do change your child’s name you must them remember to update and renew their details with these places too.
There are of course adults who which to change their names by Deed Poll too, for numerous reasons: They maybe living with a partner but not wish to get married, lets face it can be an expense many just can’t afford so to get around this they can change their surnames to match their partners. Of course there will be some who just fancy a whole new name entirely and they can choose a new first name, as adults they are entitled to do so as it is after all their choice.
I can’t see many adults choosing to change their child’s first name though as it could be very confusing for them – Clare, from Emmy’s Mummy and Harry Too! and I were chatting about this last week and she was telling me of the horrid 3 weeks where her daughter refused to answer to anything other than ‘Poppy’ – a name which was on the short list for when she was born, she does regret telling Emmy the other name she could have been called, although it could have been a lot worse, there was a 2 week period where Emmy would only answer to ‘Whiskers’ and pretended to be a cat!
I do actually know of one child who had her first name changed by Deed Poll by her Mum almost immediately after it was registered….this was because the Dad and Grandma had taken the baby to have her birth registered and they had spelt it wrong, I just wish I could remember what the name was and what it was originally supposed to be, but the slight error of one letter mistake changed the name from a girl’s name to a boy’s name, and while some are unisex the Mum wasn’t happy to live with it, I can’t say I blame her either.
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