Life after Jacobs birth is beginning to get back on track, I am physically more mobile after my section and starting to think about getting back on my long-standing weight loss mission but I will be honest and say finding time seems to be my biggest hurdle of late.
Before Jacobs birth Ollie and I had got into a nice even keel with spending time together with Ollie’s odd work pattern meaning he doesn’t have the same days off every week, when he was off in the week we were able to head out on a daytime date when Joshua was at school.
Now we have a baby in tow those afternoons at the cinema or having a child free meal are gone in favour of baby cuddles and tag teaming to eat, it’s a new kind of nice but it doesn’t stop me craving intimacy and closeness that you get with having some one on one time.
Having a baby has also had a massive knock on effect with my confidence, with leaky boobs, saggy skin and a section leaving me with no feeling through the middle of pelvis its hard to feel anything other than … at odds with myself.
Over the next few months Ollie and I are hoping to find some us time even if that is just a meal on our own or a couple of hours watching a film together that is not a PG!
After reading some research carried out by Vagisil ProHydrate recently I was in part relived that I am not alone in feeling like Children and life in general has restricted intimacy in our relationship as a whopping 72% said they felt the same way and over half of women in the survey (56%) said that they wanted to feel more connected to their partner. And when it comes to intimacy, women associate this with closeness, togetherness and love.
Vagisil’s new ProHydrate range is available at Boots and Superdrug and is specifically designed to relieve intimate dryness so that you can feel comfortable, confident and enjoy intimacy when you want to.
So there is hope … its hard to sometimes see the wood for the trees on the 3am night feed and the constant sleep deprivation but no matter what it takes we are very lucky to have such a lovely little family and even in the depths of the stress and anxiety that family life brings … we are still together and will keep pulling together to make it work.
Did you find having children difficult to maintain your relationship?
What kind of things did you do to keep connected?