Today’s Guest Post is written by the Beautiful Jeannette from Autism Mumma….
Who is AutismMumma?
Sometimes I feel like a brand but I’m me, a commuting career woman in a previous “life”, now a stay-at-home Mumma to two wonderful children, who just happen to have autism too. One at each end of the spectrum, one diagnosed at 4.5 years old and the other, very recently at 10.5 years.
I blog to raise awareness and acceptance of autism for them and everyone connected with the autistic spectrum (there’s an ever-growing number of us!)
Very humbled to have been shortlisted in the Brilliance In Blogging awards.
That would be me, @AutismMumma aka Jeannette
Seeing Beyond The Exterior
I have a pre-teenage daughter, a tween. She’s 9.5 and has only just started to get into clothes. She has autism and learning difficulties.
This has meant that we’re experiencing the “pink princesses” stage later, at 9 years as opposed to 3 years onwards. She’ll root through my nail varnish case for the brightest colours and has started asking to wear mascara at home at the weekend. I’ll agree if we’re not going out.
On the upside, it’s meant that when we go shopping for clothes, she is voicing more of an opinion on what we should buy, but on the downside, her ideal choice (Disney princess dress) is not for sale in her size.
And it’s a double-edged sword, because whilst D might be 9.5, with the emotional capabilities of a child much younger, she looks much older than her age would suggest. I’m already buying 13-14 year old clothes for her and I have to ensure that nothing is too old-looking (if you get what I mean).
I’d finished reading a magazine last week and popped it into recycling, I think it was Closer, it’s good sometimes to sit down with a coffee and have 5 minutes reading a bit of gossip.
D took the magazine out of the recycling bag and said “now I’m getting older, should I start reading at older magazines?”, I think it was more a question in the air because her favourite magazines are those with a free gift (animals or crafting) and the magazines are always discarded in favour of the free toy. She loves reading books but will rarely read a magazine from cover to cover.
It got me thinking about what I buy and don’t buy.
I haven’t bought OK magazine for years, it’s aimed at a much younger market than me and I always find the cover pictures extremely airbrushed.
This recent cover is a good example, compared with a more natural shot of the celebrity.
There are a few magazines who are saying “no” to airbrushed pictures and they’ll state in articles that the subject hasn’t been airbrushed but this shouldn’t be the exception to the rule. It’s presenting a false image to an impressionable market, especially the make-up adverts (buy this and you’ll look like this…except you won’t).
On the one hand, I’m glad that I don’t have a daughter who’ll feel the peer pressure of needing to conform with hair straighteners, fake tan and short skirts, on the other, it makes me sad that we won’t have the “you’re not going out wearing that!” arguments.
I tend to just wear mascara at weekends if we’re staying at home and I took a couple of photos yesterday of my bare face. I didn’t look as bad or scary as I thought I would!