Should Mothers Who Deny Fathers Access To Their Children Be Punished? this is a story that was brewing this week in the Daily Mail as it announced that Government Ministers are proposing a gigantic shake up of the family court system that could see parents breaking court orders regarding their Children, being punished by removing parents driving licences/passports, given curfews, unpaid work or even being thrown into jail!
Please don’t all panic there is nothing yet set in stone and in the main the Government will be consulting on how the law should be changed in the future and preferring the courts to presume that a child is better off with both parents in their lives….
Now that’s a biggie isn’t it?! and one that no doubt people will be shouting the odds over for months, where do you stand on this debate? more to the point where do I stand?
Now some of you will already know that after recent changes in legal aid that you can find more about HERE. I am sitting on the fence with this, there are certainly fors and against from me.
Now my recent gripe over the fact that the legal aid system was abused by people pursuing, and law firms allowing clients to take legal actions that were unreasonable, unacceptable or out and out unattainable … OK OK I know I am back on that soap box again but this whole tit for tat mentality really is ludicrous! … if you have not seen your child for 4 years and you have not maintained contact, you are not going to get full custody unless the other parent has a serious drug issues and the child is neglected, lets be honest! (although let me point out I am not a legal expert and this is all personal opinions and conjecture)
I am not sitting here with my perfect life being a sanctimonious cow, not by any stretch: after splitting with my daughters father when she was 6 months old, I instigated contact for my ex partner to continue with contact even after a horrifically volatile break up. Needless to say he was not chuffed about everything to do with it, but all power to his elbow he continued with contact and we learnt to adapt and alter it to her best interest now she is 12, going on 13. We will never get on as best friends and if we are both honest we have a tolerable relationship these days .. we still do not get on and do not agree all the time.
It was not easy following through with continued contact, it was messy, soul destroying and hurtful at times and If I am honest It was damn hard work but I still believe what happened with him and I is between us, not her and him and with regular contact it would be up to her when she is old enough to decided, which she has done and she continues to see him. Please don’t think I am sat here judging any decisions that you have made I am honestly not.
Don’t get me wrong I do know there are many reason and situations that mean maintaining contact maybe detrimental to the welfare of the child/children and I only hope that the new legislation should there be any, will take these instances on-board and does not penalise those remaining parents!
Do you know parents that have used the Children to play games and in the end the Child/Children have suffered?
So what do you think should parents be have action taken against them if they refuse to follow court orders and allow the estranged parent to see their children??
Disclaimer: Please note I am not legally trained and I am not able to offer any advice. Should you be seeking advice please feel free to speak to a trained professional.