OK so first off I have to say it may just be me … but what is it about children’s birthday party invites that seems to make some parents rude and ignorant?
Regular readers will know that Joshua had his first ever party last month and by the time we had paid for the room hire with the bouncing castle, party food and cake we probably spent just shy of £200.
We opted for the biggest room and bouncing castle as we wanted Joshua to be able to invite every single child in his class (so over 30 children)
Around 5-6 weeks before his party we sent out his invites giving parents 2 options to reply, one to call or text me, duly giving people my phone number and for those that may have been a little shy we added on the extra section with a cut off RSVP so they didn’t have to call or text if they felt uncomfortable about it.
Over the following 2 weeks we had around 18 people confirm, 4 decline leaving around 8 sets of parents who had said nothing.
Now don’t get me wrong I know sometimes life gets in the way but a week before his party I was trying to track down parents for the missing replies and it was like a nightmare.
On finding one parent I was told that there were a pile on the side and she will get round to reading it at some point.
Fast forward to the day before the party when I received 3 texts saying their little folks now had other plans and would not be coming … at this point I am beginning to losoe the will to live … who accepts an invite to then the day before cancel when something better comes along?
Is it just me?
Is this not rude?
Now as the morning of the party comes round I officially have no idea how many people to cater for so have to presume the 8 children who we have heard nothing from might turn up and so cater for them also.
After a hectic first 20 minutes I start to head count and finally see who did come and who didn’t and we ended up with 14 children total … so having catered for 25 children plus I was no quietly seething …
Now don’t get me wrong I get things crop up, a family emergency, a sick child or some other calamity but out of the 14 children that had arrived 3 of those were children that hadn’t confirmed or denied if they were coming in the first place meaning several of those that confirmed had not even turned up.
Even though so many people let Joshua down he had a great time with the remaining friends but I was very disappointed for him and cross at how much money had been wasted catering and hiring the bigger room to ensure people could come when we could have paid less for the small room instead and not wasted for too much food than I would like to think about.
After several discussions with some of my School Mum friends it seems that this is now fairly normal occurrence and that many never do respond or reply and just decide on the day if their child is coming or not.
Parties are super expensive, time-consuming and most of all are for Children so why do some folks behave like this? And why do we accept it?
Have you experienced this?