The next blogger in my guest post series is the super duper lovely Beth;
Beth who writes a wonderful blog Twinderlmo where she writes beautifully about life with her husband, son (born December 2008) and identical twin daughters (born June 2013)
Beth’s post today is one that resonates exactly how I feel on the subject of Caesarean sections and I am thrilled she has shared it with us today!
You can also find Beth here:
Why I’ll Never Be Ashamed Of My C-Sections
After reading yet another Facebook thread being so anti-caesarean and scaring others; I feel so sad reading that people are petrified of having a caesarean section. Just the word alone can strike fear into the hearts of expectant mothers but for me, it was the perfect choice for me second time around.
For me personally – I came away from both of my births feeling nothing but positive. I have never once felt even a twitch of sadness or regret and certainly not one ounce of guilt over having my babies via c-section. Nor will I ever feel this way no matter how many negative comments, discussions or articles there are. The simple fact is – I gave birth. Yes I’m sure there are people out there quick to jump on me screaming “but the baby didn’t come out your vagina!” Yes. I am aware of this. But I did give birth. My body grew, fed, carried and gave me my babies who I was lucky enough to have them all fit and healthy.
Lets rewind back to where it all began in 2008. I was pregnant with my first child in the wonderful first pregnancy where I was on cloud 9 growing this little baby inside of me. Nothing worried or phased me as I thought you simply had a baby and that was it (oh ignorant bliss hey) I attended my birthing classes where it was all explained what would happen but C-sections were barely mentioned and when they were all that preluded was “HIGH RISK” like it was a panic word.
My son ended up back to back and basically got stuck so an emergency C-section was the only way and he came into the word healthily and I was up and about the next day. I never felt petrified or in agonising pain – I know I was lucky but to hold him in my arms was the most wonderful feeling and never any pangs of guilt, shame or upset every entered into my mind.
When I was pregnant for the second time, I discussed birth options at my first appointment as the midwife couldn’t see any need for a C-section after my first birth. However, as soon as we realised we were having twins for me it was a simple decision to opt for an elective section to get them out as soon as possible. My planned section was wonderful and the team were so friendly and having the girls was such a beautiful experience. I know people aren’t as lucky and have complications, but this too can happen with delivering vaginally.
I am so sad that people are frightened when there are so few positive experiences shared. I will never ever regret my decision to have a planned section with my twin girls and I look back on both days, yes even the emergency with such fondness for these are the days my babies were born. Who cares how they made their entrance, they were healthy and that ultimately is all that matters.
Don’t forget to pop over and visit Beths blog Twinderelmo to see what else she is writing about!